Devora Krasnianski speaks with Frumma Rosenberg-Gottlieb, a Torah life coach who does a lot of work with relationships. We spoke about reinvigorating the marriage relationship, especially in midlife. For so many of us, our marriage was just one of the many things we worked on in our very busy lives, and it somehow was not the priority it ought to have been. But it is never too late.
Frumma shared some important mindsets and some practical tips for making our marriage great again.
SHOW NOTES
03:26 Marriage is most important relationship in our lives.
05:10 It’s about ‘keeping in love’.
07:02 It’s never too late to build a great marriage.
12:19 Talk to each other. Have rich conversations.
14:12 The ‘5 things I like about you’ exercise.
15:19 Frequency and quality of intimacy.
17:36 A man wants to make his wife happy – so tell him what you want.
19:01 A loving meditation.
20:32 “How can I bring some love and safety to him?”
22:06 Express gratitude and how your life is enriched by him.
24:26 We can catch our negative thoughts and watch our words.
28:50 The power of physical touch.
33:04 Do new things together; be adventurous together.
34:29 It’s not the number of disagreements, it’s about how we disagree.
37:25 Forgive ourselves for the mistakes in the marriage.
39:09 Importance of movement and exercise.
41:01 Q: I don’t enjoy conversations with my husband, can I spend time with friends?
45:22 Learn something together.
47:27 Develop resilience.
49:00 Gratitude notebooks.
50:06 Final Thoughts.
51:59 Wrap up.
