The “As-If” principle is about acting as if we already possess the qualities we want to develop. Instead of waiting to feel confident or capable, we step into the mindset of someone who embodies those traits. It’s not about pretending, but about aligning our actions with the person we want to become. By acting “as if,” we start shifting our internal state, gradually making these traits a natural part of who we are.
In Plexing, this principle is key to stepping outside our comfort zone. Rather than waiting for the perfect moment to act boldly or curiously, we ask ourselves, “What would a Plexful person do right now?” Acting as if we’re already embodying those qualities—like playfulness or creativity—helps us build confidence and grow, even if we don’t feel fully ready. Each action, no matter how small, pushes us into new territory and expands our comfort zone.
By acting “as if,” we rewire our identity. The more we take steps in alignment with the traits we want to cultivate, the more natural it becomes. Every Plexful action we take strengthens our growth, and over time, our expanded mindset becomes who we are. We don’t wait to feel ready; we step out and grow as we go.
FFTs (First Freaking Times)
First times are always a bit awkward—that’s just part of the deal. Whether you’re trying something new, taking on a challenge, or stepping into unfamiliar territory, the discomfort is part of the process. But here’s the thing: that awkwardness is necessary. It’s the foundation of growth. You can’t get better at something unless you’re willing to feel the unease of doing it for the first time.
Brené Brown coined the term “First Freaking Times” (FFTs) to describe those moments when we try something new, and it feels uncomfortable or awkward. The key idea is that the first time we do something—whether it’s starting a new project, taking on a challenge, or stepping into a new role—it’s going to feel awkward, uncertain, and vulnerable.
However, acknowledging that these first times are inherently tough helps us lean into the discomfort, knowing it’s part of the growth process. And, more often than not, the experience isn’t as scary as we imagined. The idea is to embrace the awkwardness as a natural part of expanding our horizons. With practice, the next time becomes easier, and we’re one step closer to mastering it.
The FFTs concept helps remind us that we don’t need to be perfect from the start; we just need to begin. With each new first time, you get better at handling the discomfort, and over time, what once felt impossible becomes second nature.
You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability. – Brene Brown
